Honoring your own company

Honoring your own company is not about being alone. It is about learning how to stay with yourself when there is nothing immediately pulling at your attention.

Most of us are very practiced at filling space. We do it automatically and often without noticing. We reach for our phones, add another task, keep ourselves busy, keep noise around us. Not because we are doing something wrong, but because stillness asks something of us. It asks us to feel.

When the distractions fall away, what is left is sensation. Emotion. Subtlety. The quieter truths that do not interrupt us, but wait patiently until we slow down enough to notice them. Honoring your own company begins not by adding another practice or tool, but by removing something. A screen. A familiar escape. A habit of reaching outward instead of inward.

It can be as simple as sitting without picking up your phone. Feeling the body in the chair. Noticing what arises without immediately narrating it or trying to move past it. Observing the impulse to fix, distract, or improve the moment. These urges are not problems. They are information. They show us where we have learned to leave ourselves.

The invitation here is not to force presence or to sit through discomfort as some kind of discipline. It is to gently notice where you disappear from your own experience. Can you stay one breath longer than feels comfortable? Can you let an experience be unfinished? Can you listen without turning what you feel into a story you need to solve?

This is not isolation. It is intimacy.

In yoga philosophy, this is closely related to svadhyaya, the practice of self-study. Not analysis or self-judgment, but honest observation. Being in your own company is where self-trust is built. Not because everything feels good, but because you learn that you do not have to abandon yourself when things feel uncertain, uncomfortable, or unclear.

This is the foundation of the work I offer through In Divine Company. A practice of staying, of listening, of allowing.